America: A Dangerous Place For A Child

Posted: December 22, 2018 in child abuse, sex offenders
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Parents, with their children in tow, have been coming in droves to our borders seeking a better life for their children and families. Many of the parents brought their children on the long and dangerous trek because they hoped that America would have more pity on those with children. Most were escaping the gang violence and poverty in their own country, so it’s easy to understand why a loving parent would put their children through so much for a chance for a better life.

Actually, it’s not much different than when the Pilgrims made their dangerous trip to the “New World” to escape the tyranny of the King of England. Or the new settlers on the frontier. They also brought their children with them on their dangerous journey. And people consider them heroic.

Americans already upset at the images of thousands of children being separated from their parents and being housed in cages, were even more shocked and outraged at the recent death of a seven year old immigrant who died while in custody of Border Security officers. Many were incensed at some of the politicians who casted the blame for this little girl’s death on her parents. 

But where is the outrage at the thousands of American children who are abused and killed every year—Many by their own parents? The American Society For The Positive Care For Children States that 1,750 children died from abuse and neglect in 2016. That same year there was also 4.1 million child maltreatment referral reports received. And 143,866 children were placed in foster care. 78.0% of child fatalities involve at least one parent. 70.0% of child fatalities are under the age of 3. And nearly 50% of children who die from child abuse are under one year old! ( https://americanspcc.org/adverse-childhood-experiences/ )

Our Broken Foster Care System

Many of the immigrant children were placed in for-profit foster care facilities across the nation. Children placed in a for-profit foster care system are dying at alarming rates, but the deaths are not being investigated! And autopsies are not even being attached to the now-closed case files, a two-year investigation has found. (https://theintercept.com/2017/10/18/foster-care-children-deaths-mentor-network/) The report cited news accounts of children placed in homes with individuals who had been convicted of kidnapping and other serious crimes, with foster-parents who had substance abuse problems, and in homes where caretakers had previously failed foster care placements. What is most shocking is that between 50-60% of maltreatment fatalities are not recorded on death certificates!

Child Sexual Abuse: The silent Epidemic

Roughly 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 10 boys will experience sexual abuse. It is a sad fact that children are the most vulnerable among us and also the least equipped to advocate for themselves. Because of the #MeToo movement more and more survivors of sexual violence and sexual harassment are coming forward to share their stories. But for the most part, the focus of #MeToo has been on adult victims of workplace sexual misconduct. This has to change! Almost 60,000 children are sexually abused every year. Over 90% knew their perpetrator very well—A step-parent, relative, or caregiver. 

It is time for the women and men of #MeToo to advocate for children as ardently as they do for adults. Removing stigma is key, and encouraging survivors to disclose their own experiences will help others feel safe enough to come forward. We must disrupt the silence, because silence benefits only perpetrators, never victims.

 

Consequences For the Victims

  • Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy.
  • Abused teens are more likely to engage in sexual risk taking behaviors, putting them at greater risk for STDs.
  • About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.
  • In at least one study, about 80% of 21 year olds that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.
  • The financial cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States is estimated at $585 billion! 

Children living through abuse, violence and other traumatic events unnecessarily suffer the ill effects for the rest of their lives. These life-altering events are called Adverse Childhood Experiences. (ACEs) Positive parenting and protecting our children from harm prevents the harmful effects of ACEs. Children who are nurtured and supported throughout childhood are more likely to thrive and develop into happy, healthy, and productive adults. 

Each state has its own requirements for reporting abuse. Some states require that every adult who suspects abuse makes a report. Other states very clearly define which persons and professions are required to make reports. It is important to know the reporting laws in your state. (You do not have to be certain that abuse has occurred to make a report). In Nebraska, everyone is a mandatory reporter. This means that not only physicians, medical institutions, nurses, school employees and  social workers are mandated to report abuse, but any person who has reasonable cause to believe that a child has been subjected to abuse or neglect is required by law to make a report to the CPS Hotline and/or Law Enforcement. (Nebraska Revised Statute 28-711)

I strongly suggest that non-professional people contact local Law Enforcement. Recently, an Omaha elementary teacher was convicted of sexually abusing at least 7 young children on school grounds. One was a 7 year old girl! That same week an Omaha assistant principal was convicted of having sex with a 15 year old girl and her younger sister! Both were accused of sexually abusing children in other states. And neither schools reported to police. It was only reported to police after the parents found out. And they reported it.

Why is it only when things like this happen that people become shocked and outraged and speak out against the perpetrators? This is happening every day in some child’s home—by someone they trust!

I was even more shocked when I heard an Omaha police spokesperson say that “hopefully these children will get over it soon.”

Get over it? Their innocence and childhood has been destroyed, and you think they will get over it? It will take years and years of therapy and support before they will be able to live with it. But they will never get over it.

If you have a child you must be diligent to protect them from sexual predators—from without and from within. 

“Safe, stable, nurturing relationships and environments are essential to prevent child maltreatment and to assure that children reach their full potential.” – CDC

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